Something On My Heart

This in part, is a response to a recent article in Catholic Vote, Want to Stop Sexgate 2017? Stop Feminism by Carly Hoilman. The author did a good job with her perspective and my reflection also includes some of the comments from critics. 

'Policing a woman’s body'?? You want to kill? You are correct; it is your choice, just like anyone else. In the feminists’ attempts to equalize everything according to their definitions, they somehow neglected to include the injustice in such barbaric practices which eliminate human beings. As a viable member of humankind with a voice, it most certainly affects my life! Why? Well, study the research on the steady growth and intensity of violence in this country. It’s like an epidemic which starts with one invasive organism that works adversely on the livelihood of all, and to which leaves a trail of destruction in its path. Whatever is in the hearts of women to consider this action is not up for scrutiny nor judgment; however, the action is wrong whether you choose to believe this or not; like this or not, or feel compelled to tell others to believe that killing innocent lives is okay.

One could also choose to look at it another way. If we were a people who truly loved humankind, then our efforts would certainly attend to those hearts and minds of men and women because that’s where love starts with emotion and then rationalization. Our actions would promote the quality of life with actual works with the respect for life. When reason is in conflict with the natural tendency to care for our brothers and sisters, consequences are not for the benefit of all.

I know the general media doesn’t like to report the devastation resulting from the compliance and blasé acceptance of chemical ingestion affecting hormonal disturbances or the convenient resort – the physical termination of life of those whom have not yet a voice. They are way behind the times when if just recently, they started reporting the increase in breast cancer incidents linked to the pill, after decades of reports were squelched by the power houses in the abortion industry. And those same participants in this industry spend oodles of money to keep the cycle moving with extortion practices. They’ve even named it ‘health care’.

The contraceptives and growing number of abortificants were supposed to prove that freedom for women to have sexual encounters without consequences would also ‘up the ante’ for equalization with behaviors of men who were presumed to escape any detrimental accountability. Hence, a new deceit evolved in the horrific description of a fetus as a ‘parasite’ and scientifically an incorrect label. Those who investigated such hypotheses were once again slammed and the lies were enough to procure even deeper involvement into the downward spiral of normalizing death for the most vulnerable.

The supposition that all pubescent members were surely going to participate in sexual encounters merely promoted an increase in this same activity. Every so often, leaks come out with reports that increases in diseases connected with promiscuous sexual encounters still exist. Those too have become more of a social acceptance and only notable concerns once money is attached to maintaining medical attention to these diseases. For example, in this country, smoking has become a social stigma whereas, the choice to have abortions deemed a right. Many health insurance carriers charge extra premiums for those who smoke or diagnosed obese, yet permit abortions to be included in premiums for all to share cost, even at the extent of over stepping a conscience respect for choice. Ironically, abortion is the guarantee that life will be terminated by its action; the others merely influence a stronger possibility to shorten it.

The complaint that too many women were having babies without the support of marriage has been used in order to promote more abortions and comprehensive birth control, and to the point of sterilization chemicals in the market, as well as ease in distribution to the very young who have just begun their own process of development into adulthood. Surely, these are all acts of love and caring – NO! The slogan, ‘Abortion on Demand Without Apology’ reveals more of the defiance toward life than the nature to nourish it. ‘Without apology’ is a sure sign that one in fact, does NOT care. Yet the deceit argues that caring most assuredly means it’s okay to make a choice to exterminate life, and don’t worry, it won’t impact you or anyone else adversely.

So how does avoidance work? Eventually it spreads its poison into areas unknown to rational minds that operate according to beliefs which include self-indulgence and immediate gratification. The results manifest themselves in what some exclaim, ‘Unbelievable!’ or ‘How can anyone do this?’ as violence perpetuates through domestic violence, increases in mental health concerns, anger and hatred. More resources are then needed to support the trials many women are having with pregnancy failures after bio-chemicals have instructed the body to change the natural process.

There is something else that becomes a real concern – why did it become necessary for the feminist movement to propagate a trail of extermination for a cause in seeking equality and recognition? In efforts to expose unfair power practices affecting the lives of women, when did we cross over to live the same behaviors we blamed on men? The essence of reproduction lies in the existence of both sexes. Making abortion legal in order to control the process by means of destroying life, does not change the immorality of the act. Of course, morality seems to have gone by the wayside to excuse many actions relegated with other wrongful choices for pleasure or under the appearances of control. Is that the booty? Did we somehow think that in order to attain equal recognition, we needed to set pleasure and power as goals? And when and where did we receive such power to change the order of natural occurrences?

Whether or not feminism ‘intended’ to produce dysfunctional relationships between and among men and women is something we have had a chance to monitor, as well as modify from the issues originally proposed to bring justice in many unfair practices in the work force. Where were those feminists in supporting women in pockets of industry whereby women were asked to barter jobs for sexual favors or sustain the abuse in disrespectful touching and verbal innuendos?

When women come forward now after years of repressing these events, why is it a concern when the essence of the sexual revolution was to eliminate repression of sexual behaviors and their actions, so as to become equalized across the board? For what ever reason, in accepting this behavior to exist surely demonstrates that differences exist naturally and that behaviors are the actions with which we can work to change, and not the nature of the genders.

The possibility of degradation is a reason women have given for choosing not to come forward from the beginning. Perhaps their precarious link to the opposite sex in choosing job over mutual respect may be the force which will attack them. So, they waited for the women’s advocacy team? Many women have come forward to dispel the lie that contraceptive use and/or abortion have little to no adverse consequences. They come forward to expose an erroneous ideology and tragic attitude only to be bashed and degraded, more often than not by women who call themselves sisters. How long will it be before the safety net of women’s support will also be present for them?

Many women in the same situation have said, “No”. Their circumstances most probably never received significant attention. Certainly, there were no prestigious advocates to defend their allegations for unwanted advances. It more than likely cost them their jobs; I know it did for me. There was no prestigious legal army to defend the injustice. Instead, many women claiming to be feminists chose to deal with the presence of this behavior, rationalizing some other positive traits of their accused perpetrator because their choice was also to get what they wanted as well. So, we have both men and women going after what they want in the name of ‘feminism’, ‘free and uninhibited love (lust)’, and all seeking to maintain power over the other. Not only does this exacerbate disrespect for persons, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby we remain in a continuous and constant battle over power. A huge contradiction evolves because women have an innate nature to love and care for humankind in ways much different, yet very compatible with men. That is the feminine essence of women. When we have reached the point whereby we take our own lives and wants in precedence over the respect of our part in the lives of others, we have become what we said needed to change.

I don’t know about any other woman out there, but I would rather come forward and admit that the underlying premise in the quagmire of the equalization of the sexes pushed by immoral actions is very wrong. Once, accepting this, one can move to change behaviors so that respect for both the differences and similarities among men and women would also allow increased respect in attaining mutual recognition and compensation in the work force and in areas of occupations. Of course, I still believe that it is a sign of self-respect to admit to wrongful choices as well as the humility that comes with providing the ways and means for all to learn a better way in caring for our earth and its people.

Feminists hold the original group of women as models for the beginning of many changes that have in fact been very successful. However, they also have withheld specific statements from these same women who proclaimed that abortion was ‘child murder and the exploitation of women and children’. We have a huge problem in sex-trafficking in this country as well as increased domestic violence. Susan B. Anthony advocated to learn what makes women turn to abortion and worked with her sisters toward this for the benefit of all; whereas Margaret Sanger already said she had her answer and deemed abortion and inducement of contraceptives necessary actions in order to get rid of riff-raft. Perhaps her own personal experience had a lot to do with her recourse for such a profound choice, but that would mean that she forced her ‘personal’ ideology onto a whole lot of women. I don’t remember a strong appeal from professed feminists for the strong stand Susan B. Anthony and other original feminists held for pro-life while they sought to expand the original ‘intention’ for abortion.

With the premise and ‘intention’ of providing safe recourse for a very small percentage of women determined to seek an abortion at the hands of anyone willing to do this, the supreme court decided to pass Roe V Wade with stipulation that ‘intention’ was in the matter of life and death circumstances. Since then, the abortion industry has sought, through its propaganda to modify the ‘reason’ to include abortion on demand. The term, hijacking is valid in this sense. It seems that the warnings by the original feminists were no longer considered.

Norma McCorvey is hailed as a heroine in the abortion movement, but they fail to report the fact that for most of her life after this precedential case, she worked to expose the fallacy of abortion as a ‘good’ choice for women. This same group would not allow her to reopen her case – so much for respecting choice! Norma McCorvey was a heroine because it takes a lot of courage to admit a mistake and then humbly commit to working to correct it. She was another vulnerable person persuaded by a powerful lie. When, as intelligent human beings, do we re-evaluate the actions of feminists who proclaim abortion as a right and hold them liable for such deceit? We demand transparency, yet we fail to investigate. We proclaim a personal choice, yet demand public support. That is what is mind boggling!

I have said ‘No’ to circumstances involving trading sexual favors for job procurement along my journey of many years in working. I also say ‘No’ to women who trade life for the same reason. Ironically, I continue to be punished in the same way by the power houses which have propagated along both genders. As a woman who lived at one time agreeing with the guidelines of the feminist movement in the 60’s and 70’s, I have had to eat a lot of humble pie, so to speak. Many call me a hypocrite because of my acceptance of the ‘intentions’ of the feminist platform, and the same also label me a traitor to an ideology to which I grew in disagreement because it supports wrongful choices and works to indoctrinate the message to normalize and expand killing. One major consequence in accepting the truth in what love looks like and how it shows itself is the absolute freedom I live to be completely out of the cycle of continuous contradiction toward my nature as a woman to nurture and promote life, rather than control and/or destroy it. All of us who share in this appreciate the clarity of personhood as women, and as feminists we work to bring truth to other men and women who are still held hostage by the power lies create.

Would following my choices or those who share them, eliminate the wrongful choices for all? – Of course not. None of us will ever be perfect. Why do you think robotics have become popular? Somehow in our efforts to do the best we can, we also have translated it into another fallacy that we can also become perfect, and in that sense, we have forsaken the ‘do the best we can’ part. A realistic goal is the focus on doing the best we can to seek out the truth, to offer options, and to avail better choices for men and women to carry on life.

Intentions regarding our original foremothers bring forth positive actions and behaviors only when the original ideas are set for the benefit of all. If it was ‘hijacked’ by those who wished to carry out a reverse for power, the rhetoric for explaining the necessity to maintain the choice in abortion a private matter, still produces victims as we are instructed to rally around 'choice'. According to these feminists, it’s okay for women to exploit the vulnerable in exterminating life, but not right for men to do this. How about, it’s very wrong for anyone to secure power by means of immoral actions? Why do you think the original feminists sought to warn their sisters of the consequences of abortion? Their intentions were to work for justice, not power and control.

Men do not live and grow isolated from women; the same for women. The social construct molds the behaviors of both in their interactions with each other. This begins within families and guided by laws innately attuned for the propagation of life. It’s a natural process. Choices are abundant because we all have free wills. Injustice presents itself when any of those choices lead to consequences which interfere or prohibit the free will of others or those choices promote harm. Free doesn’t mean ‘easy’ or ‘without accountability and responsibility’. Free also does not give permission to cause harm. We cannot teach anyone anything if we ourselves think that we have control over the free will of others, or we are allowed to judge what is harmful or not to another person, including the life we create. As a society, we haven’t even begun to learn what Susan B. Anthony advocated within a platform to truly care for women.

Value of life has now crossed over to new definitions of ‘quality of life’ with the elderly and/or those with disabilities so that euthanasia under the misnomer of ‘death with compassion’ has already made its debut with the celebration of people determining their own death. That too has become a public issue. Somehow we have assigned all suffering and hardship concerns to decide worth to living. Another contradiction evolves as we offer care to those who wish to commit suicide because somehow they view themselves and their lives as worthless. And the determination of its value is set by ????? Once again, those who follow this trail of death, label those who disagree with this action. They judge us as sadists and yet wish to accuse us of doing the same. There is a difference between discerning the actions one does VS attacking the person. When one believes simply that every life is a precious gift, one usually admits to a responsibility to remain respectful of it until life has passed. Loving and patient care are sources of strength to those who are dying. I work with many who face close death, suffering in one way or another. We have a lot of influence in their attitude and subsequent peace in the process. It is tragic when the most vulnerable are again attacked, abused and persuaded to terminate their lives for the sake of convenience. What an unsettling state of affairs!

We gather hope from the research and courageous writing, appearing in our media, especially online from those who celebrate life, for ALL. Somehow, many women are still able to sift through the design ‘intended’ to confuse and control the essence of femininity. They have developed a moral compass necessary to help navigate a journey toward self-respect, maintaining the freedom for a voice as well as protecting the voiceless. They continue to offer truth in knowledge learned or experiences taught, many times, and like many of us – from our own mistakes in following a lie and our promise to do better in seeking out the truth as the best choice of all.