The Pro-Life Movement's Missing Piece: Every Man's Secret Letter To Women Part II

Recently the first article was published in this two part series. You can view the first part here:http://www.catholic365.com/article/5519/the-prolife-movements-missing-piece-every-mans-secret-letter-to-women.html

When it comes to involving men in the Pro-Life Movement, a few thoughts come to mind that I would like to share with you.

Invite Us In!

Include us in the argument. A friend of mine, who works as a men’s counselor at a crisis pregnancy center, says it best, “because it's your body you may feel that you're doing this on your own, but we want to help, we're made to help. Just like a guy isn't going to ask a girl out unless he's pretty dang sure she likes him, it's the same in this case. Because we respect you so much, we need your permission to help you and even to save you from yourself. Every woman wants to be led by a man, so allow us to lead you and take this burden off your shoulders.” Could not have said it better myself!

Reinvigorate The Desire For Manhood In Us!

Dale Carnegie, the author of “How to Win Friends and Influence People” says “instill in them an eager want. He who does this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”[i] Instill in us the desire of our own masculinity. The desire to go outside ourselves for the sake of love is still within us, no matter our past. It remains, most assuredly, for the woman we love along with the children she brings forth with us.

The Scalpel

John Eldredge, the author of “Wild At Heart,” says “A man is a dangerous thing. So is a scalpel. It can wound or it can save a life. You don’t make it safe by making it dull; you put it in the hands of someone who knows what they're doing.”[ii] For decades masculinity has been dulled and 60 million lives lost has been the result. For this to change, like iron, men need to be sharpened once more and our hearts need to be unleashed to love fully and protect life with everything in us.

The desire to protect our women and children is already inside of us…..it merely needs to be unleashed. If you call us on to loving those closest to us, most especially the mother of our own child, believe me, we will respond to that call.

Give Us Permission a.k.a. Affirm Us

Men have been silenced long enough. The Sexual Revolution supposedly brought us unlimited freedom to have as much sex as we desired. It left us in slavery to our own brokenness.

So often, men stay away from Pro-Life because Planned Parenthood tells us it is a decision between the woman and her doctor. As mentioned above, Pro-Life has fed (not totally by their own fault) into this by emphasizing two-thirds of the equation.

When it comes to Pro-Life, men are in a prison cell. But the door is open. We will walk out when you give us permission to be men again. A man is meant to provide, protect and cherish those he loves! We are meant to lay down our lives for our loved ones! This self-sacrifice lay in the deepest recesses of our hearts! But we need permission (more so encouragement) to live deeply from within! We need masculinity affirmed once again!

Defenders of Life…..and Love!

A man who defends life is not a coward. He is a hero. Look at the most recent movies which attracted numerous men to watch them. Bruce Wayne in the Dark Knight Trilogy, who gave all for Gotham, the city he loved and wished to redeem! Mike Murphy, in Lone Survivor, who was killed while calling in a rescue helicopter for his ill-fated Seal Team in the Hindu Kush of Afghanistan. Chris Kyle, the American Sniper, who protected hundreds of men on the ground in Iraq. Tyrone Wood, who sacrificed his life for his fellow Americans in Benghazi, as portrayed in 13 Hours.

These movies, and many more like them, have done an excellent job of educating men on authentic masculinity. It is time Pro-Life joins in.

If you bring us into this argument and heal the wounds we have suffered, you will produce an army which Planned Parenthood can no longer hold at bay. The final nail in the coffin of Planned Parenthood will come by our hands. It will come from the men who declare in one voice to Planned Parenthood, “We no longer need you. We know what love is. We know what sacrifice is. We know what the gift means to be a man for our women and children. And we will never again need your twisted and demonic view of what the gift life is. We are no longer silenced by your lies. We are free men. We are free to love, to live, and to give everything we are because we know what love is. You, Planned Parenthood, have our permission to leave our shores and never return!”

If you truly long for this, I can promise you there is a man in your life who longs for it as well. Maybe he has been wounded by abortion. Most assuredly, he has been deeply wounded by what society has done to masculinity. I encourage you to bring love and healing to him when he is ready. Pray for him, be there for him and be a friend to him. You are silently raising up a wounded warrior who longs to get back into the fight.

When he is healed, he becomes a lethal weapon against abortion which the abortion advocates have no antidote. You never know how you can impact his life and the lives he touches for the better.

I encourage you, stand for life and love, but stand for men so that we can take a stand for life, for love, for you and that we can redeem what has happened to this great nation and make America once again a land which respects all life from conception to natural death! You have it in you! May Our Lord and Lady guide you to use it!

[i] Carnegie, Dale. How To Win Friends and Influence People. New York, NY. Simon & Schuster Inc. 1936. Pg 30.

[ii] Eldredge, John. Wild At Heart. Nashville. Thomas Nelson. 2001. Pg. 86