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- Because Not Every Smile Is a Sign of Strength
"Some people bleed behind their smile. And all we ever ask is, ‘How are you?’"
There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t scream.
It smiles. It waves. It says “I’m fine.”
It cracks jokes in group chats. It never cancels plans. It hugs everyone at church.
And yet, inside—it’s bleeding silently.
We live in a world obsessed with presentation but blind to pain.
We applaud the person who’s always cheerful, always showing up, always holding it together.
But maybe that smile is hiding a storm.
The truth is:
Not everyone who looks okay, is okay.
And that’s where we’re failing as a community of faith.
The Real Problem? We’re Asking the Wrong Question.
“How are you?” has become a transaction.
A polite handshake in verbal form.
It doesn’t demand honesty. It doesn’t invite vulnerability.
Because the expected answer is always the same: “I’m good.”
But what if, instead, we asked:
“Are you okay?”
That one shift—changes everything.
It tells the other person:
“You don’t have to perform for me.
You don’t have to pretend.
I’m not looking for a filtered version of you.
I’m here. I care. And I’m ready to listen.”
Jesus Didn’t Just Heal the Broken. He Saw Them.
He saw the bleeding woman in the crowd.
He heard Bartimaeus over the noise.
He noticed Zacchaeus hiding in a tree.
Jesus didn’t just walk past people with casual “How are yous.”
He entered their pain.
He asked the questions no one dared.
And He still does.
So why don’t we?
We are surrounded by camouflaged pain:
The overachieving teen battling depression.
The smiling widow missing her soulmate.
The priest who comforts everyone but cries alone.
The single parent who jokes through exhaustion.
The friend who’s “always there”—but feels invisible.
They don’t need a casual check-in.
They need a soul-level reach-out.
Let’s Flip the Script.
The next time you see someone—
Don’t just ask, “How are you?”
Pause. Look into their eyes. And ask:
“Are you okay?”
It might be the one question that saves them.
“When you dare to see the pain behind the performance, you become the presence of Christ in a person’s hidden hell.”
A poet, author, and faith writer who believes words can heal what silence hides. My poetry collections — Inked Emotions, Scattered Feelings Stitched in Ink, and Love Beyond Loss — were born out of seasons of grief, solitude, and deep reflection.
Here on Catholic365, I’ve been humbled to share reflections that have reached hundreds of readers. I write not from a place of perfection, but from a longing to make sense of love, loss, and the quiet ways God speaks into our lives.
Whether it’s a poem, a story, or a small reflection, my hope is that you feel seen, encouraged, and gently reminded that faith isn’t always loud — sometimes it’s found in the waiting, the falling, the starting again.
You can find more of my work at https://about.me/anniedcosta
