Call Me Cupid-Let's Talk about God and Marriage

I have been married for almost two years now and I've been blessed with such an amazing husband. He is the greatest reflection of God's love and this is how it's supposed to be in a good Christian marriage. He humbles himself in order to lift me up and I try to do the same for him. We also try to serve each other and this often times leads to sacrificing our own needs for the needs of the other person. Spending quality time with each other is another important part of our marriage. This goes along with getting to know each other on a deeper level.

Just like a husband and a wife in a marriage, God wants us to know Him on an even more intimate level. The relationship you have with God needs to come first and then marriage needs to mirror that relationship. Just like Christ married His bride the church, a husband marries his wife. We spend time with our spouses in order to develop a relationship with them, so we should also do this with God to create an agape (unconditional love) kind of relationship.

God knows our love language and spouses over time should learn this about one another to grow closer to each other. There are five main love languages: quality time, affirmations, gift giving, acts of service, and physical touch. As spouses grow closer to God and His love, they grow closer together.

In order to grow closer to God, my husband and I give off the love language that the other person needs and we receive love with gratefulness. In addition, we are involved in a weekly couples small group to hold us accountable in all areas of our lives and we go through devotionals individually and together. The devotionals we read and the discussions we have in small group all focus on loving God, loving each other, loving others, and drawing other people into these concepts. By keeping this as a focus and at the center of our marriage, it makes our lives better and more full. Lastly, in order to hold everything together we pray with each other every night. It offers a great way to end the day and it really keeps us grounded in our faithfulness towards God and each other.

**This article will definitely point you in the right direction towards a good Christian marriage, but in my next article I want to write about some of the challenges my husband and I have had and how we have worked through them.