When Is A Child Free of Their Parents Advice or Chastisement?

When is a Child Free of Their Parents Advice or Chastisement?

Eileen Renders

   This is a question that sooner or later surely triggers some emotion within a mother or father’s heart. “Why does my adult daughter or son refuse my advice?” Parents often give an adult child advice out of concern and experience. Many adult children refuse suggestions, and advice and deny their concern.

   The usual response a parent will hear in reply is; “I am an adult now, and I will make my own choices. Let me learn by my own mistakes.” This leaves the parents with concern and advice to feel shut out, and to be confused as to these boundaries.

   It seems to me that although these adult children are correct in saying that they are adults and can make their own decisions, I absolutely believe that after having said that, I am also of the opinion that understanding a parent’s sincere concern, an adult child is expected to show appreciation for their concern, and not be rude with their words. We are taught to always respect or parents and age is not a factor determining right from wrong. 

   Colossians 3:20: “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.”

   Proverbs 20:20: “If someone curses their father or mother, their lamp will be snuffed out in pitch darkness.”

   Proverbs 30:17: “The eye that mocks a father, that scorns an aged mother, will be pecked out by the ravens of the valley, will be eaten by the vultures.”

   It is warned by God Himself to respect parents as there are serious consequences when disrespectful to parents. In conclusion, it is necessary for parents receiving disrespect from adult children to do as the Bible instructs, and that is; to maintain open communication and set clear boundaries while also showing compassion and understanding.