Forgiveness – Receiving vs Giving

1 John 1:9 states, "If we acknowledge our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive our sins and cleanse us from every wrongdoing." That verse assures me of God's forgiveness when I repent and accept responsibility for my transgressions. Unfortunately, doing the same in an earthly relationship does not always reap the same reward.

Sometimes, we unintentionally say or do something to a family member or friend that breeds anger, hurt, or distrust. We humbly ask for forgiveness because we cherish that relationship, but our plea is disregarded.

I was trying to help a friend with a situation not too long ago. Because the relationship had always been open and honest, I felt comfortable using a little tough love, and in this case, it was necessary. Although the words said were out of love and concern, they were not received similarly. Deep down, I knew I had said the right thing for the right reason; however, holding on to the friendship was more important. I apologized and asked for forgiveness. A complete loss of contact followed, and the silence was deafening. I ended up shedding a river of tears, losing hours of sleep, and turning into a self-loathing, muddled mess.

Through prayer and meditation, I realized that a relationship built on mutual love, trust, and respect will survive even the strongest storm. I hope that is the case and that time will heal the wounds. So, I pray:  Father, I bring you a heavy heart and know you can and will lighten it. Please give me the strength to turn my worries over to you, leave them there … and place my trust in You … Your Will … Your way. 

Amen