Reflections on the Holy Family: Did St. Joseph Take the Night Shift?

I’ve written previously about Our Lady of Kibeho by Immaculee Ilibagiza and Steve Erwin (2008), and how I believe her messages to the children of Africa are not limited to that particular time and space but in fact, speak to the many sufferings we’re currently experiencing in the United States, specifically racial tension and growing hatred towards others with opposing views. Recently, Our Lady of Kibeho’s messages have resurfaced in my mind, and the one being pressed upon me the most is Mary’s statements about how she is a mother to all— just like God is a father to all. Since learning of these apparitions, I’ve discovered that people from all walks of life and those who hold differing views on spirituality, feel the loving embrace of this Mother in Heaven. In fact, The Blessed Mother succeeds where others fail in bridging the gap between the wayward sinner and God.
She is called the Mediatrix after all.
“Her arms are wide open to embrace all who come to her,” says the seer Vestine, “She will press you tightly to her bosom and cherish and protect you” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 113) She continues, “Our Lady says that she will console you; She hears the prayers of all who call on her, and she watches over you all.” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 113-114).
Perhaps you are thinking “Well, she obviously meant the people of the town and country she appeared to or Catholics who accept teachings and devotions to Mary.”
Not true.
Mary tells another seer Marie-Claire “When I address myself to you, I am talking to the whole world. I have not come to Rwanda to speak to only those in the parish of Kibeho. When I speak to one person, I speak to all of God’s children everywhere” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 85).
In fact, the Blessed Mother made the following promise to all the students of the high school the seers attended:
“Soon after Marie-Claire’s apparitions began, the Blessed Mother appeared to each of the visionaries separately and told them that she’d come to them, one after the other, in the courtyard of the school on March 25. She instructed them to gather all 120 students together, and have everyone pray the rosary as an act of penance for having persecuted the visionaries. Our Lady said that if the students agreed, she’d grant them all a gift: she promised that every student who attended Kibeho High School for the next six years would complete her education and graduate with a diploma. The promise may sound insignificant to other parts of the world, but in Rwanda such an achievement was completely unknown. Poverty, illness, and the extreme shortage of school placements ensured that only a few students from any one school would complete their education and graduate” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 65).
Naturally, the Muslims and Protestants at the school thought this promise was reserved just for the Catholics. Another seer, Anathalie, told these students that Mary “didn’t look at religion; all people were her children, regardless of their beliefs” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 65). In addition, she stated, “Our Lady has never told me that people should convert from their religions, but she loves us so much that she begs us to convert our hearts and love to our Father—that’s what she means by ‘conversions.’ She says that the best way to achieve this is by praying the rosary, which isn’t only for Catholics. It’s a tool anyone can learn to use to talk to God” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 66).
I found these statements truly compelling.
God and our Mother Mary desires a child-like love. A love that stands before the altar just as we are. A love that says, “This is where I am right now on the journey, will you have me?”
Will you be my Mother?
Will you be my Father?
“God doesn’t abandon any of His children; He is always waiting for you to say yes to Him and let Him into your hearts. God will never deny you mercy if you have a true conversion in your heart” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 106).
We place limits on God’s love and in turn we have forgotten the wonder, the majestic experience of God. A Muslim and a protestant can pray the rosary and receive a miracle, but what are Catholics receiving? Are we ready for God to fulfill the promise? Or instead, do our fingers slip mindlessly across rosary beads simply out of routine or because someone told us we must pray them?
One of my best friends doesn’t believe in organized religion, but she finds great comfort in praying the rosary at times, a practice she picked up from her two grandmothers who were Catholic. My friend and I don’t share the same views on spirituality, but we don’t have to because I take the Lord and his mother at their word.
“True conversion in your heart” (Ilibagiza & Erwin, 2008, p. 106).
“For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7
Ilibagiza, I, Erwin, S. (2008, November). Our lady of kibeho: mary speaks to the world from the heart of africa. New York, NY: Hay House, Inc.